To understand and remember the knowledge of the book, you have to know what does 'Understanding in relationship' actually mean.
Understanding is important to have a healthy relationship, it has 3 steps.
1. Know the meaning of what he/she says.
You have to listen and understand carefully that what your partner is saying.
2. Understand his/her point of view.
Depending on the understanding of what your partner said, you have to find out the reason of your partner to do so.
3. Take action according to that understanding.
After knowing that why your partner said a certain thing, you have to take decision which will satisfy both of you.
That's the meaning of being understanding, but sometimes you might find it hard to understand the point of view of your partner. In this situation, you need to know some psychological facts about both gender, Man and Women.
Psychology of Man:
Man mostly love to have and archive goals and they also love challenges and adventure.
They have higher level of ego than women that's why they consider advice as an insult, but they consider themselves as wise after giving advice cause they believes in solution, that's why they love to give advice.
The main behavior of man, which is literally opposite of women, is to be alone when they feel down. They tries to solve their problem by themselves but if they can't, then they either ask for advice from any wise person or try to forget the problem by hanging out with friends or playing games.
Man are like rubber band, they go away from their partner when they feel down, but they come back to their partner again with more energy.
Man shout to win an argument.
Man fall in love with the person who make them feel important, and feel the opposite when the person make him feel unimportant. A man can do anything for their partner if his partner makes him feel like she needs him.
Man loves to give big gifts and all they want is praise and appreciation in return.
Psychology of Women:
Girls prioritizes relationship more than goals.
The core priority of women is respect.
When girls feel stressed, they love to talk with someone, to share the problem, but they don't expect the solution while they are sharing their problem.
Girls love to give and get help, but like Man, they also don't like to get advice.
Women define anything more than how it is, to make people understand their feelings.
Women's mood is like sea waves, it goes up and down many times, they won't feel better until they are fully done with feeling down.
They fall in love with the person who take care of them and understand their feelings.
Women don't care about how big or small a gift is, they love all gifts equally.
They scares to ask for help, even for basic needs, cause they think that their partner might leave them.
Now that was the specifications of both genders, Man and Women. Now you will know the reasons of their misunderstanding.
Each gender thinks that the other gender is also the same, and that's why they consider the other one as imperfect when they don't behave the same.
For example, a man thinks that his partner needs to be alone when she's sad, cause it's what he does when he is sad. And a women thinks that her partner should share his problem when he is stressed, cause that's what she does when she feels down.
In short, any behavior of a gender, that doesn't match with the other creates misunderstanding.
Now, how to avoid these kind of misunderstanding?
The solution is to keep in mind that Man and Women aren't the same, remember the psychology of both genders, which has mentioned here, and take action according to those.
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